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so we had a baby 6 months ago, my husband doesnt really help much but he works so i can get over that
he goes to work comes home 1pm goes back to sleep wakes up about 3pm and goes nearly straight out to this coffee shop where all his freinds are there are no women or alcohol so im not really worried that hes cheating he doesnt come home till 9pm eats his dinner and goes to bed about 11
so today he says if i asked him to stay at home with me and his son it would be like a punishment
how would you take this he said it in a jokey way but i know its true
i was quite upset as he doesnt realise how bored i get staying at home all day looking after the house and baby
am i right to think hes selfish
he goes to work comes home 1pm goes back to sleep wakes up about 3pm and goes nearly straight out to this coffee shop where all his freinds are there are no women or alcohol so im not really worried that hes cheating he doesnt come home till 9pm eats his dinner and goes to bed about 11
so today he says if i asked him to stay at home with me and his son it would be like a punishment
how would you take this he said it in a jokey way but i know its true
i was quite upset as he doesnt realise how bored i get staying at home all day looking after the house and baby
am i right to think hes selfish
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by yellojam I do not think that your husband is cheating. Your husband was probably just joking about staying home would be like a punishment. I think most married couple needs their space sometimes both the man and the woman. I dont think your husband is selfish he probably just want to give you some space. But try to have a talk with him and you will feel better about the situation. Marriage is based on trust, respect, communication, being friends.0% 0 Votes- 0 Rating: Good Answer
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- Please do yourself a huge favor and take this matter up with your husband privately first. If you were hurt, you don't need agreement from strangers to verify that.
The reason I say this is to prevent you, your husband and child larger problems further down the road of life. If you sincerely speak with him about it and things get worse, then is when you may need to bring others into the relationship.0% 0 Votes- 0 Rating: Good Answer
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- That's crazy! I say you put your foot down and let him know that he needs to stop that mess because its not ok. Ask him how he would feel about that if he were you. He can make the baby but have no part in taking care of it? If he won't change u need to put him on child support and pack your bags because you can do bad all by yourself.0% 0 Votes
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by VøDevil I would reward him by taking away his wife and kid.
He's obviously looking for any excuse to get away from his family,
I think that's horrible. Take the kid and leave, he doesn't love either of you.0% 0 Votes- 1 Rating: Good Answer
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- He is in no condition mentally for marriage or family by that statement and all his disregarding you and the child. Divorce.0% 0 Votes
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- I don't know any wife... that would tolerate that behavior more than 2 days in a row.
But hey... I don't dictate the rules of your marriage. You two... do.0% 0 Votes- 1 Rating: Good Answer
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- You should talk to him about it.0% 0 Votes
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by Paul He does this every day? He sounds young, more like a boy than a man. He's not invested in the family or his relationship with you. He needs an escape. This isn't a good thing. You have a few options - you can be patient and hope he grows up over the next year or two, you could suggest counseling (probably won't work, sounds like he just doesn't care enough right now), you could divorce with all of the messy consequences. None of these are great - it all just depends on what is best for your child and what you can accept in your life.0% 0 Votes- 1 Rating: Good Answer
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