由一个微笑开始
由一滴眼泪结束
別以為我只是個白痴, 什麼都不懂 其實我懂的比其它人還要多,,
別以為我很堅強 , 其實轉身後我卻哭得像小孩1樣無助,
別以為我的心讓人摸不透, 其實我只是害怕有人觸碰我心未痊癒的角落
別以為這只是普通的一場玩笑而已, 這足夠讓我傷痕累累..
這個說我很傻, 這個說我很天真, 這個說我很淒慘.
我不想要有這些能令我全身振抖的世俗眼光.. 我不需別人的同情
我的反省 我的檢討 令我吃又吃不下 睡又睡不穩,
我只不過想有1個人好好的疼惜我, 難道真的有這樣難嗎?
我只不過想你再多說1句你很愛我, 難道真的不是嗎,,
我只不過想你再關心多我1點... 難道不可以嗎?
我只不過想你為我做的決定解釋.. 難道不行嗎,
我只不過想你做好男朋友的本份, 難道我這做女友的有錯嗎..
別看我平時嬉哈大笑, 其實我真的很想找個人暸解我 讓我在他的面前不需要有任何偽裝
別看我傻傻的,, 其實我對愛情也很敏感,
我只是1直習慣為愛付出,
我只不過想我能被我心愛的你疼愛, 能把我心中的寂寞寄託出去而已,
我想變得冷漠, 但我做不到
我想在朋友前大哭. 但我不想真的讓他們擔心.
我只是想找1個人傾訴心中的苦, 但總有說不出口的難堪,
還是我應該說是 不是你不懂對待我, 只是我不懂得做人女友
不是我不懂你, 不是我不夠愛你
是你太令我失望, 太大情大聖 說的話令我太沒有安全感
我亦有自知之明. 我會退出這段沒結果的感情.
我說過, 我不再為不值得的人流淚... 但我的承諾真的給你毀了,
他說過他會愛我 一直到永久
他說了太多 分手要給我自由
既然無法承受 也別再多找藉口
我亦有自知之明。。。
GOOGLE TRANSLATED
I admit that there is indeed over, but in the end I have to I can leave you ... but you all ignored it? You can do it? Like that commitment, that you own the end I said so
There is something missing on the life of the people are bound to miss a constant commitment to hold but not restrain a fickle heart is a burden sometimes persistence is a free people do not give perfect happiness is not a hundred points know that they can not afford to have so much time has no right to ask so many otherwise his suffering but also difficult for each other one love, one heart belongs to what is fair? Love the deep deep love where there is injury unfair to people who fall in love should not love the light of day is never a sigh of love do not love you is the beginning of tears burst commitment is a thick white paper and then the script has also been I think I know the ending ... the taste of tears every minute even if the pay I do not want to escape in this world have no lasting happiness is only momentary pleasant and comfortable if you put my feelings as a game I play rhetoric can not afford to be more losers who knows the pain behind my smile Love begins with a smile a kiss from a growth ultimately injured by the tear end eventually end up with scars left their mark, but you force yourself to forget that I realized that I loved Maybe not all about the comfort may be silent is the best memory is the best outcome can not escape a fool is always the same sad because there are so willing to stray dream in mind that some fate is doomed fate is destined to lose some good results will not love a person does not have to have him but have to love a man must go to him not to give up or let myself not to because there is no sun and not go into the spring because there is no singing and not to give up their pursuit because there is no applause but lost his In fact, every ideal of a road leading to the sun is full of ups and downs of each one leading to the ideal way is full of hardships and sweat a lot of things it has a development destined to enjoy the beauty of the end of the process of passing when we should learn to forget burst into laughter cry for a return to bold bright sun rise a look that time can change everything!Do not let your tears spring and winter and spring style with an elegant winter each have their own life, each with its own chic your beautiful smile the whole world laughs with you cry you cry the whole world only one person you can not have the time when the only to do is not to forget the way of their choice have to finish the knees!
By the beginning of a smile
The end of the tear
Do not think I'm just an idiot, do not understand anything in fact I know we still need more than others,,
Do not think I'm strong, in fact, after I turned it cry like a child a kind of helplessness,
People do not think my heart is unpredictable, in fact, I'm just afraid of someone touching the corner of my heart has not healed
Do not think this is just a common joke, that's enough to make my scars ..
This said, I'm a fool, that said I was innocent, that said I was miserable.
I do not want to have these make me whole body vibration shake the secular vision .. I do not need the sympathy of others
I reflect on my review I could not eat eat and sleep and sleep instability,
I just want to have a personal good pamper me, Is it really so difficult?
I just want you to dwell on one you loved me, it really is not it,,
I just want you to care about more than 1 point ... I do not it?
I just want you to explain the decision for me .. do not you,
I just want your boyfriend to do their part, can my girlfriend do you wrong ..
Although I usually hip hop laugh, in fact I know I'm really looking for someone to let me in front of him without any disguise
Do not look at my silly, in fact I love is very sensitive
I'm just a straight habit for love,
I just want to be I love you I love, I feel so alone can sustenance out of it,
I want to be cold, but I can not
I want to cry at a friend before. But I do not really let them worry.
I'm just looking for a person to talk pain away, but there are unspeakable embarrassment,
Or I should say to me is you do not know, but I do not know how to behave girlfriend
I did not understand you, not I love you enough
I am disappointed that you are too, too much to say Love Story that I was too insecure
I also have self-knowledge. I will not withdraw from the results of this relationship.
I said, I do not deserve it not for the tears ... but I promise to give you really destroyed,
He said he would love me until the permanent
He said too much, give me break free
Since we can not afford too many excuses stop
I also have self-knowledge. . .
Happiness in this World
When The Love Of Your Life Doesn't Love You
Photo: Lance Shields
Often, of course, the reasons we get (and give) for ending relationships are often less than truthful. Sometimes, the truth is avoided because it seems simply too harsh. At other times, it's because the real reason isn't grasped even by the person doing the ending, coming as it so often does from a place of dysfunction (e.g., insecurity, fear, etc.). Whatever the reason, by the time someone has decided to end a relationship, they're usually committed to that course, and nothing the other person does or says will change his or her mind. Even when the relationship proceeds from that point to end slowly, in a series of recurrent reconciliations and breakups, eventually the relationship does end for good, leaving the person who was left devastated. As was my friend.
Most of us currently involved in long-term romantic relationshipsremember the obsessive nature of what we felt during our relationship's early stages, a love that caused all other concerns to recede (sometimes slightly, sometimes dramatically) into the background of our lives. We remember just how fun, pleasurable, intoxicating, and all the other good things the songs all say love is quite vividly. But most of us involved in stable romantic relationships now have also experienced romantic relationships in the past that failed and remember too how muchembarrassment, heartbreak, angst, and every other bad thing the other songs say love is, too. To have love yanked out from under us in the early stages of a relationship is dramatic and devastating, often leading to suffering far out of proportion to the actual event. For all sorts of reasons, when we lose a love that's freshly minted we often feel like our lives are falling apart and that we'll never be happy again.
But people who lose love when in a different stage of a relationship than the beginning—perhaps several years or even decades on—or in a different phase of life from their youth (when emotions generally run to extremes), tend to experience suffering over the loss of love in a slightly different way. When we lose love through divorce in middle age, for instance, there are often other things lost as well: children, homes, lifestyles, and dependable companionship. Though the loss of these things compounds our suffering, often the suffering we feel is less tinged with a sense of dramatic tragedy. Most people in this circumstance are better able to glimpse through their suffering the truth that life will go on, that they will be happy again someday, as studies on the set-point theory of happiness have now begun to demonstrate.
When we lose love at the end of life, however, most often due to the death of our spouse or life partner, recovery tends to be just as hard as when we lose love at the beginning of our lives as teens or young adults—but for different reasons. It's not that our emotions run as hot as they did when we were younger. It's that we know our own demise is coming sooner rather than later and our constitution and confidence are often not what they once were. Our scope of interest and involvement in the world has often narrowed so that without our life companion in it we often have little else in our lives to return to after we recover from our loss. And then, of course, we have the entire history of the relationship looming large in our minds like a movie playing over and over, which retrospectively seems like the fuel that was keeping us going all along. Without it, we often feel our forward momentum stall.
HOW TO GO ON
So how do we recover when we lose a great love? As with any loss, we must look upon it as a challenge and an opportunity. I say this without in any way attempting to downplay the intense suffering the loss of love brings. No matter what stage of a relationship or stage of life in which we find ourselves, dealing with the end of love is often overwhelming. But whether we're sixteen and feel as if life is about to end or sixty-nine and know it actually soon will, within that ordeal resides the opportunity not just to survive but to thrive—to alter the very way love functions in our lives by becoming stronger for having lost it.
We can love and be loved from a position of strength or weakness. Even the strong suffer when they lose love—but are proven strong when eventually they emerge from their cocoon of suffering and re-engage life with gusto. The strong know the true meaning of the Buddhist phrase "suffer what there is to suffer, enjoy what there is to enjoy" in a way the weak do not. They know that romantic love, especially the obsessive kind, is essentially grounded in selfishness. That they craved it because of how it made them feel, not because of how it made the person they love feel.
THE LOVE WE ALL WANT
In Buddhism, the term jihi is used to denote the mercy, or love, that a Buddha feels for all people. In contrast to romantic love, jihi represents the kind of love that requires nothing from the person toward whom it is felt, the joy that we experience from feeling it having nothing to do with any response we receive in return. If our children rebel and cease to speak to us, do we stop caring about what happens to them—in effect, stop loving them? No. This love we bear our children, then, represents the closest thing to jihi the unenlightened can feel, actually becomingjihiwhen it expands to include all beings. Romantic love may provide the spark that gives birth to it, but jihi romantic love is not.
Jihi is the kind of love toward which we should all strive to feel for others, whether we're romantically in love with them or not. If we feel jihi toward another with whom we're also romantically in love and they take their love from us, they cannot take our feeling of jihi for them unless we allow it. And if we don't allow it, though we'll still hurt—even a Buddha has an ego to contend with—we'll find ourselves far better positioned to recover and eventually flourish again.
Developing the capacity to feel jihi represents the greatest benefit we could gain from a broken heart. If we can use the suffering we feel at losing romantic love to break through the shell of our smaller selves (the selves that might even hate the person who once loved us for hurting us by taking their love away), we just may find ourselves in a place where we can genuinely wish for their happiness whether we're a part of it or not. And if we can accomplish that—well, then we'll have gained something of far greater value than the love of another person: the indescribably joy that comes from the ability to love everyone.
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