許多人往往在抉擇伴侶時，容易東想西想，不知所措，
就是因為害怕一時做錯決定，看錯人，造成終生的遺憾。
諾貝爾文學獎得主蕭伯納說：「此時此刻在地球上，
約有兩萬個人適合當你的人生伴侶，就看你先遇到哪一個，
如果在第二個理想伴侶出現之前，你已經跟前一個人發展出
相知相惜、互相信賴的深層關係，那後者就會變成你的好朋友，
但是若你跟前一個人沒有培養出深層關係，感情就容易動搖、變心，
直到你與這些理想伴侶候選人的其中一位擁有穩固的深情，
才是幸福的開始，漂泊的結束。」
愛上一個人不需要靠努力，只需要靠「際遇」，
是上天的安排，但是「持續地愛一個人」 就要靠「努力」，在愛情的經營中，
順暢運轉的要素就是溝通、體諒、包容與自制(面臨誘惑有所自制)。
有許多人總是為「際遇」所迷惑與苦惱，意念不停、慾念不斷、爭逐不散，
而忘了培養經營感情的能力才是幸福的關鍵。
所以不要去追問到底誰才是我的Mr.Right / Miss Right，
而是要問說在眼前的伴侶關係中，我能努力到什麼程度、
成長到什麼程度，若沒有培養出經營幸福的能力，
就算真的 Mr / Miss Right出現在你身邊，
幸福依然會錯過的，而活在猶疑與遺憾當中，
這不就是許多愛情虛
無症的遭遇與心態嗎？
若你此刻已有一位長久相伴的伴侶，
不要再隨便三心二意地猶疑了，
我們往往不易察覺感情中的一個陷阱，
就是「近親生慢侮」，也就是經濟學中的鐵律
「邊際效益遞減法則」，
跟你在一起越久的人，就越容易麻木與忽視，
而新鮮的「際遇」總是那麼動人可愛。
在感情對待中，難免有摩擦與無心的傷害，
而且論得罪自己的次數累加起來最多的人，
當然是跟我們在一起最久、最親近的人；
而新歡呢，又還沒開始有得罪你的機會，
再加上他的刻意討好，所以新歡怎麼看怎麼可愛，
舊愛怎麼看怎麼討厭。
但別忘了，新歡身上總是有不確定的未知數，
舊愛身上就是有難得的熟悉感、確定感、信賴感。
千萬不要隨便在偶然的「際遇」中迷失了自己，錯放了幸福溫暖的手。
所以蕭伯納的話，是要提醒情人不要太鑽牛角尖於尋覓那唯一，
應該把精神用在學會經營幸福的能力上，
同時也提醒我們「溺水三千，只取一瓢飲」。
若有幸遇到了難得的伴侶，就不要再三心二意了，
因為我們永遠不知道一生何時會遇到兩萬個其中的幾個，
所以要知福惜福、活在當下。
Many people tend to choose partners, it is easy East to the West think, what to do,
Is the moment a wrong decision because of fear, wrong person, resulting in a lifetime of regret.
Nobel Prize winner George Bernard Shaw said: "At the moment the earth,
About twenty thousand people for when your life partner, to see which one you meet,
If the ideal partner in the second before the appearance of a person you have in front of the development of a
Friend Xiang Xi, the deep mutual trust relationship, then the latter will become your good friend,
But if you do not train a person in front of the deep relationship, it is easy to shake the feeling, change of heart,
Until you and the ideal partner, one of the candidates have strong affection,
Happiness is the beginning of the end of wandering. "
Do not need to rely on a person to fall in love, just to rely on "chance"
Is the arrangement of God, but "continued to love a person" to rely on "hard" in the love of operation,
Smooth operation of the elements of that communication, understanding, tolerance and restraint (facing the temptation to be made.)
Many people always "chance" the confusion and distress, ideas constantly, desire constantly chasing dispersed,
Forget the ability to develop their emotional well-being is the key.
So do not go asking in the end who is my Mr.Right / Miss Right,
But to ask that in front of partnership, I can work to what extent,
Growth to what extent, if not the ability to cultivate a happy business,
Even if true Mr / Miss Right in your side,
Still being missed, and living in hesitation and regret among the
Is not that a lot of false love
Disease-free experience and mentality of it?
If you have a long time now accompanied by partner,
Do not hesitate casually half-hearted manner,
We often difficult to detect emotions in a trap,
Is the "next of kin of Health slow insult" that is, the iron law of economics
"Law of diminishing marginal utility"
Longer with you people, the easier it numb and ignored,
The fresh "fortune" are always so lovely and moving.
Treated in the feelings, the inevitable friction and unintentional injury,
And the number of sins against his own add up the most,
Of course, is with us the longest, closest;
The new love it, they began to have offended you have not the opportunity
Coupled with his deliberate to please, so the new love, how to look how cute
How to see how old love hate.
But do not forget, new love, who is always uncertain unknown,
Old love who is to have a rare sense of familiarity to determine the sense of trust.
Do not casually in the occasional "encounters" in the lost himself, put the wrong hands being warm.
So if George Bernard Shaw, is to remind the lover into a dead end in the not too find the unique
The spirit should be happy with the ability to learn to operate,
Also reminds us that "drowning three thousand, just take poured drink."
If fortunate enough to encounter a rare companion, would not have half-hearted, and
Because we never know when they will face twenty thousand lives a few of them,
So blessings to cherish, live in the moment.
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